A warm "hello" out to my parent in India! Thank you for your question.
I am often asked about effective discipline strategies. It is important to think about the age and situation of the child when providing advice. (If you find you need more tailored advice, try contacting the Indian Psychological Association: http://www.iacp.in).
In general terms, I would advise a high structure/high warmth approach. And, for a child who needs activity, I would organize many activities--and in particular daily outdoor activities. I find kids tend to like to bounce, swing, swim and/or run. Can you safely include these activities in your daily schedule?
Remember that children need to be set up to succeed. Do your best to create a schedule/environment that works best for your child.
Recently I was asked the same question by "Today's Parent" magazine. In particular, I was aksed about how best to support a very busy little boy named, "Finn." This was my response. (To read the full article, click on the picture below.)
"Finn’s wrecking-ball behaviour is about testing his physical limits, explains Jillian Roberts, a Victoria psychologist specializing in kids and teens. As your toddler becomes mobile and has a taste of independence, he’ll naturally want to test those boundaries. “Gentle, immediate redirection is most effective. Be calm and firm, say ‘no,’ and tell your child that what he was doing is not OK, then move him to another activity,” says Roberts.
Defiant, tyrant-like behaviour is also common. “Maya puts up a fight about everything, from getting dressed to eating,” says Lee, adding that Maya’s favourite word these days is “no.” Avoiding power struggles whenever you can will make for calmer days, says Roberts, because toddlers want to feel some control over their environments. “Give choices as much as possible—two options you can live with. Maybe it’s carrots or peaches with lunch, or offering the training pants with either Grover or Big Bird,” she says. “This makes toddlers feel as if they have some say. The less that you have to use force, the more co-operation you’ll get.”
Sometimes, I rhave ecommended a program called "1-2-3 Magic" to parents who find it particularly challenging to support their child's behaviours needs. To be honest, I used this program with each of my own three children!
http://www.123magic.com (see books below)
It takes a great deal of love and patience to raise a child. Reach out to friends and family when you need support and be sure to take care of yourself too! Remember: these very busy days do not last forever. Take each day as they come.
My very best wishes to you and your child.
Dr. Jillian Roberts